Moving through the seasons we are now into winter. The lawn looks healthy but doesn't need mowing every week...which is good. The Vegetable garden is growing very healthy lettuces at the moment which is wonderful because they have become quite expensive in the supermarket, and often don't look very appealing. It is so nice to pop outside and pick leaves off my fancy lettuces and make a fresh salad. I would love to be growing some more items to go in salads but tomatoes and cucumbers will have to wait until summer and I have spring onions on the way.
As parents you are inundated with "helpful" advice and suggestions on how best to raise your kids. Some of this will come from family and friends, some you will read in the news or magazines, some from medical professionals and then there will be the do-gooding politicians who also want to tell you how to raise your kids. As a parent you are so desperate to "get it right" and do the very best for your kids that you often feel pulled in all directions. The reality is you can't listen to everyone and you can't do everything right because there is no right way, every child is different, every parent is different and every situation is different.
I was listening to a radio station the other day, when driving, and they were discussing giving pocket money to kids. One announcer was saying that his kids had to earn their pocket money or they didn't get it, the other said that he just gave them pocket money with no expectations. The argument was that pocket money was considered to be so kids can buy luxuries and that it shouldn't just be given to them, they should learn about putting in a bit of effort to earn those luxuries.
One of the most rewarding things I have done in recent years is learn to swim as an adult. I went through the same swimming lessons we all did many years ago at school. When I say many years, we are going back about 40 to a time when all schools had a pool and swimming lessons happened every week during summer....rain or shine. Usually you were instructed by your class teacher and very often the water was freezing and the changing rooms even worse. My memory is vague but it seemed we got put into groups by ability then did lengths of the pool with a flutter board or without depending on skill level. The end result was....I could jump in a pool and dog paddle a bit, swim a few strokes but not really make it the length of a pool in a way that could be even remotely described as graceful.
Mobile phones for the kids has been a dilemma my husband and I have not always agreed on and as the first generation of parents to deal with the high cost of technology that kids “want” there are no good parenting guides (that I have seen). I am sure other generations of parents have dealt with equally difficult dilemmas and as a parent I am not sure you ever feel you have got it 100% right but it comes down to doing what you think is best at the time and are comfortable with.
Who actually enjoys going shopping for Bras? At my age, a very young and energetic 51, I have bought numerous Bras over the years which should make me an expert.......NO......not even close. I also have two daughters and we have ventured out on many Bra shopping expeditions. My husband has shuddered at the thought of what damage it will do to our bank account every time we venture out on one of these necessary shopping trips. You would think I would have learnt a thing or two about shopping for the best fit........but no, I always struggle.
Moving house can be very stressful and challenging. I have worked out that our last move was the 9th time we have used a moving company to move us. There have been a few other smaller moves we have done ourselves. Yes.....we have moved a lot! So over the last 25 years I have unintentionally developed some skills and techniques to get myself and the family through the moving process with as little stress as possible.
We have been living in our new home about two weeks now. There is a big pile of empty boxes in the carport and we are starting to feel like we have settled in. We even have our pictures on the walls now, my daughter tells me that it starts to feel like home when the familiar pictures and possessions have found a place to reside.
My goal with writing this blog is to be inspired to find positive ways to manage life's little challenges and help me connect with others facing similar challenges. I am always looking for opportunities to live my life better and sometimes the unexpected can offer great solutions.